I watched another session of Four Weddings. The show overall is terrible; asking brides
to judge each other’s weddings is just wrong.
But it is interesting to see the things they dislike as guests at
weddings. Some things are ridiculous,
such as the church service was too long or too short. That is not up to the bride or something she
can, in most instances, have any say in at all.
It is after all a religious ceremony decided on by the church.
I have also noticed that almost every time, the bride that
spends the most on her wedding wins.
Money may not buy happiness, but it does buy drinks, good entertainment
and good food, all very important to wedding guests. Want to make sure your wedding doesn’t win;
then have a cash bar.
So what causes a wedding to not be a favorite with guests:
A cash bar
Lack of food choices, cold food or bad food.
Lack of décor and under this comes using fake flowers. The guests will notice, pure and simple.
Lack of seating, no matter what you think guests do not want
to stand for any period of time.Rooms that are too tight. Too many guests crammed into a room does not make for a pleasant time.
Outdoor weddings that are too hot, too cold or too buggy. Beautiful setting does not make up for uncomfortable guests.
Guests like a wedding to look like a wedding, not a dinner, and not a cocktail party. They come to a wedding and they want to see a wedding. They are looking for something special.
Long speeches or lots of speeches. Two is ok, more are not. Guests don’t really care. Have them at the rehearsal dinner where it is
just family that does care.
Don’t split the event between rooms. Cake in one area,
dinner in another, dancing another, guests spread out in different rooms. Doesn’t work, guests in outer rooms away from
the wedding couple feel like lesser friends.
Not good.
So even though I don’t really approve of the show, it does
teach the occasional good lesson. So
what would you like to add to the list?
What makes you happy or unhappy as a wedding guest?