Decisions - Should My Reception Tables be Set or Not?

Ok you’ve looked at pictures and you’ve decided on your tables, chairs, and linens. You’ve made the decision between seated dinner and buffet. Now is it time to decide on one more table related item. Do you want your tables set with your place settings (silver, china and crystal) or left bare except for the centerpiece?


Now if you have decided on a seated dinner the decision is made, your tables will be set. If you are having a buffet, action stations, or heavy hors d’oeuvres, this is a decision you will need to make. Many brides tell me they had no idea the table could be set for a buffet. Well I assure you it can, but keep in mind this can only be done if you are having seating (chair at a table) for each guest. The table should be set with everything but the dinner plates. Plates will be picked up and filled by the guests at the buffet.

Personally, I favor having the tables set. I do this for two reasons. One, I think it adds to the overall look of the room when your guests enter and two (and this is a biggie) it certainly adds to the comfort of your guests. I have yet to meet a guest that enjoys trying to fill a plate, balance a glass of tea, clutch their silverware and pick up a napkin. It is way too easy to spill something all over your party clothes.

So to help with this decision here are examples of the two different looks.

Guest tables without crystal and silverware added

Tables set with crystal and silverware

Which do you prefer?