Thursday, September 10, 2009

Letting Your Mom Enjoy Your Wedding

Don't You Hope Your Mom is Having This Much Fun At Your Wedding?

You know, I read an interesting article this morning. It pointed out just what I really already knew. My competition is not another planner. I can hold my own with any planner. My real competition is the bride’s mother that thinks she can do it all, or the bride’s aunt that wants to help out so she’ll work as the planner. Maybe my biggest competition is the bride’s friend that recently got married and thinks she wants to be a planner or a friend that just loves weddings and wants to try her hand at planning one. In other words, my competition is not the professional but the unprofessional. I can’t blame a bride for going the route of the unprofessional; after all she is saving a lot of money. But what is she losing by going this route?
If she chooses her mother, she loses having her mom being calm and relaxed on her wedding day, which in turn means the bride won’t be relaxed. If her mother is running around trying to get tables set up or checking to make sure the band arrived, she is not sharing special moments with her daughter. She is not available for pictures, so the picture schedule is going to be running behind from the start. Which leads to the wedding not starting on time, which leads to the reception not being on time (get my point).

Yes, aunts, or friends can direct your ceremony, it’s not rocket science. If they want to do a little studying, spend a little time writing out the planning and working with the bride to decide who will be doing what, it’s definitely doable. But is it worth it in the long run? Do you want your aunt to be working at your wedding and not enjoying it? Believe me; if someone is doing the job of planning correctly they do not have time to enjoy your wedding. It’s a lot of work. Remember also, you are just one of hundreds of brides that your vendors will see in a year. You are not repeat business for a vendor (hopefully) it’s your one wedding and that’s it. But when you come with a planner that vendor has an added incentive to do a really good job. He or she will be getting a lot of repeat business from that planner if they do a good job. So they are going to go out of their way to make things really perfect. Don’t you want this advantage on your side?

A professional planner knows which vendors are good and which or not, which ones will mesh with your plans and budget and which ones will not. This alone is probably worth the cost of a real planner. Think how much time you save by not having to interview countless vendors to find the right ones for you. All the phone calls checking prices and researching availability you’re going to have to make. As they say, time is money and you are spending yours in the wrong place.

Why would you hire a professional photographer, videographer, florist and caterer and then hand that all over to a nonprofessional friend to pull it all together. It just doesn’t make sense.

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